“Women are more likely to be attracted to personality and men are more likely to be attracted to physical appearance.”
Woah maybe that’s because we teach women to see men as people and we teach men to see women as objects.
Ding ding ding ding ding.
Stop throwing every single man and every single woman together and generalizing both genders. There’s nothing to go “ding ding ding ding ding” about.
People do things differently. People see things differently. And people have different attractions that they tend to go for first. That rings true for every single individual, who acts in their own way. Maybe you’re right that society tends to teach women and men differently but that doesn’t mean that works out for every single person and that doesn’t mean that every man goes for physical appearance first and every woman goes for personality first.
First things first, physical appearance is completely subconscious and happens almost instantaneously, unless you’re meeting someone over text or are in a situation where you do not see them. Would a woman (speaking generally now for the sake of this situation) go for a man that’s huge and bulky? No, there’s probably a subconscious alarm going off that that man might be mad because he’s big and scary looking. Who knows, he might have the personality of a newborn puppy. I do understand that it’s a cautionary measure as that’s an effective method to steer clear of trouble, in case the man actually is trouble. I could give more examples but I don’t want to make this text post any longer. My basic point is, both genders do go for physical appearance. It also doesn’t mean that men are “taught” to see women as objects. I do admit that men tend to be more straightforward, whistling at women and saying obscene remarks and I know that’s uncomfortable for girls and I do apologize on behalf of those types of guys but I’m almost positive girls just better conceal how they’re “rating” a guy. They don’t whistle it out as often as guys do.
Second, a simple scroll through Tumblr itself easily shows that women do, in fact, go for physical appearance. A lot. These are text posts I see scrolling through my dashboard time to time:
1) “boys who can pull off nose rings are my reason to go on in this world.”
2) ““kinda wanna be single
kinda want a bf kinda wanna hook up with a boy
kinda wanna never talk to any boys ever””
3) “Is it ironic that I just used knots I learned in Boy Scouts to tie myself to my bed for another guy to fuck me?”
4) “woah calm down im just trying to date your dad”
Those are four examples I found, scrolling two minutes into my dashboard before I found this textpost. And some of them had A LOT of notes. Girls more likely to be attracted to personality? Doesn’t seem like it here. Out of those two minutes that I scrolled, I saw only one or two posts where girls were appealing to personality. Also, I want to point out that women do go after physical attraction. It’s also second nature AT TIMES. Again, I’m speaking generally to not extend this post any farther. At least, I’m trying. I’ve studied a little in anthropology, sociology and psychology and seen different cultures as well as the behaviors of genders. Females find stronger/more muscular looking men to be more attractive and tended to pick those types of men over other men. Why? For good genes for their children and knowing that the stronger, more brawny men can bring home food. It was pretty much for survival back then and it works off well as an instinct for women. Maybe some women act differently, maybe not looking for muscle or strong men but I just want to point this out. It may be true in some situations for people.
Last of all, I just want to say that I’m not being sexist. I’m not purposely trying to bash on women or anyone. And I’m not trying to be mean. Honestly, I’m very angry and bothered. I don’t want to be grouped along with these types of guys. Sure, people can vent. People can make textposts about how they’re annoyed about some guy or girl or person. But there’s been an alarming increase in these very “guy-discriminating” posts and I haven’t really enjoyed. Sure, some guys are assholes. But some aren’t bad. And some don’t deserve to be grouped along with “men” in this post. Some men are taught perfectly well by their parents, teachers, friends, whoever, to not treat a women like a “physical object.”
Some people work mainly off of physical attraction. Some need to know personality. Some work with a mix of both physical attraction and personality.